Someone called me high maintenance…WOW, I kind of liked it! I told him I was particular and he said “NO you’re high maintenance.” It made me smile. I know to most people it’s not a compliment but to me it felt kind of good to know what I want, speak my mind and be heard. It got me to thinking, what is high maintenance? What does it mean? Is it a good or bad thing? Is it okay to ask for what you want the way you want it? It reminded me that as a child I never felt seen or heard and as a woman I want to be. I want to hear your thoughts and opinions too, but I want you to hear mine. It’s okay to enjoy life, to have interests, desires, needs and even wants met sometimes.
I was talking to a client the other day who was frustrated with a number of people in her life and how they were treating her. I asked, “Do you tell them how you feel? What you want?” and she said, “No, they should know, why don’t they know by now?” See, you can call me high maintenance if you want but at least you know what I want. I know I might not always get it, but I’m going to ask. I want to live on the ocean; I’ll work hard to someday spend at least a month on the ocean. We have to ask for what we want and need from others. If we don’t we spend way too much time disappointed. No one can read your mind. Expectations often lead to disappointment.
Asking for what we want might lead to someone saying no to us but at least we’ll know where we stand, rather than waiting for untold and unrealistic expectations.
What does living your best life look like to you?
Are you high maintenance? Are you left disappointed often? Are you willing to ask for what you want & need?
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Do you feel heard by those around you? Are you good at listening to others’ needs?
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Does it matter what others think? Are you willing to work hard to get what you want?
Today many people might use different words to describe my life or your but what I love is that I am happy. I am done judging me and every move I make and I am enjoying the moments. I am responsible for my voice and my choice of how I will live my life and what I will speak up about and where I will hold my tongue to bring more peace. My life is filled with more JOY then I ever could have dreamed of but it may not be the life you want. Create your own dream life. Dream big, speak up and go after what you want in life!