People are always asking “How do you motivate other people? Can you help motivate me?” Though the answer I give might seem a bit simple, and maybe even boring, the truth is I can’t motivate someone unless they already have the desire to change, improve, and commit to the hard work it takes to become more, do more, and be better. While many others out there have their own programs and processes, myself included, I’m not naive enough to think they work by simply buying them and wishing they will. Motivation always starts with desire, drive, and willingness.
Often, people wonder why certain techniques motivate some and not others. They may find themselves wondering “Is it poverty? Strict or laid-back parents? Education? Environment? What about something else?” Personally, I think it’s a very individualized process. For example, my siblings and I all have a good work ethic, but we’re not motivated in the same ways. Like many families, each of my siblings are so different from one another even though we grew up together.
Many times, I’ve found myself wondering “Is motivation DNA based? Is it because they have a drive for something more?” I feel I may have found a few answers recently as I was spending time with a woman in her late 90’s who made millions on the sale of her company. When I asked her “What kept you motivated?” she replied, “I always wanted nice clothes.” She then asked me “Do you need hungry kids to be motivated?” My answer was “Maybe for some people, but not for everyone” which lead me to think even deeper about motivation and the factors at play.
This week, I encourage you to reflect on the types of motivators that drive you toward your goals. Once you’ve done that, I challenge you to self-motivate using the techniques you’ve identified and put that energy toward a task in your life speaks to you in the moment.
What does living your exceptional life look like to you?
What motivates you? How do you turn your motivation into action?
Are you content with where you’re at right now? Do you have big dreams for something more?
Are you motivated enough to challenge yourself to chase your dreams? Where did you find that motivation?