Step 5 Be Gentle with your story, we all have stories and Stories behind our stories. What is your story about? Be careful listening to this one, it might be too much for you. But I wonder are you more likely to Judge or Wonder about peoples story behind their Story. Be Gentle with you and Be Gentle with others.
Fit In or Stand Out?
I used to think it started in elementary and ended after high school, but what I realized today is that many adults still struggle to know who they are to try to fit in. Maybe it’s through what they wear, what they watch on TV, who they vote for, where they hang out, if they drink or not, or what their kids do. What if you really knew who you were and what you liked? What if you wore bright blue, orange, or yellow rather than wearing black 80% of the time? What if you spoke up if you didn’t agree with what was being said? What if, instead of nodding with a fake smile, you spoke your truth so your belly didn’t hurt at night?
You see, I believe more each day we’re NOT meant to fit in. We’re meant to be different from each other, from what’s expected, from what’s average, from what’s common. Do you like to look, talk, act and be the same as others? Have you traveled the world, seen different cultures, had different experiences, and met people with different values?
I once met a woman who told me she would only allow her kids to hang out with two-parent Christian families so they wouldn’t have any bad influences in their life. Half of me wanted to laugh, (wow, that is going to take a ton of energy to control your kid’s every move). What if one of those people got divorced, changed, or did something she didn’t approve of? Would she walk away? The other part of me wanted to cry. It was as though she missed the whole point of Jesus; he never hung out with the perfect people. How can you let your light shine in a bright room?
I was listening to some music this weekend and the song said “the more cracks in you, the more spaces for light to shine through all the broken pieces.” You see, when I was very young I realized I didn’t fit in, and I’m not like all the other people. I didn’t grow up with two parents, we didn’t have extra money, and most of my clothes were hand-me-downs. It took me 30+ years to realize that I’m happy that I don’t fit in, and I’m okay if not everyone likes me. I’m sorry I don’t know movie star or designer names but I’m okay being me: a little goofy, very flawed but hoping every day to make a difference by being okay being me. Who will you be today?
Are you trying to fit in or stand out?
How do you fit in?
When did you realize it’s okay and maybe even good to stand out?
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Be Flexible, Are you open to change? Do you know Change is a guarantee in life?
Choose Change and choose to be open to changing
We don’t always get to choose the changes we will walk through in life but we always get to choose how we will react to them and if we will open are hearts to look for the good even in the painful ones. What change could you be open to this week? What is a painful change that after time you found the silver lining in? What is one thing you wish to change for the better this year? How can I help you get to where you want to go in 2018?
Words vs. Actions
I love listening to speakers and people who share their words, stories and the lessons they’ve learned in life.
When I was little, someone would say something, using powerful words and I would automatically believe them. As I got older and looked back on my life, I realized many people’s words didn’t match their actions. My boss would say one thing then do another. A client would tell me what mattered to them then live out a totally different lifestyle. Sometimes people tell me their family is the most important thing in their lives but they work all the time.
When I listen to other speakers, I’ll often hear them share words like happy, passionate, good, excited, and love. Then, they might not act any of them out. I heard a speaker the other day and they must have told the audience 30 times how passionate they were, but there was no passion in their presentation, and no energy in their words. I started to think: do I believe actions or words more?
Words have great power will you use yours to speak life or steal life from another person today? Once they come out we can not take them back.
Speak life, use your words for good to build people up and not tear them down!
I love the five love languages but my top is Quality of Time. You can tell me until you’re blue in the face that I matter to you but if you can’t spend time with me then it’s hard to believe your words. Actions always speak louder than words to me. What speaks loudest to you?
What does living your best life look like to you?
Do actions speak louder than words to you?
What is your love language? Words of Affirmation, Quality time. Physical Touch, Acts of Service or Gifts?
Do you wait for someone to show you they will do what they say they will or do you take them at their word?
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