Do you have a disability? Do you judge people who do? I hope my video opens your mind and heart to a new understanding of how people learn, see and think differently.
To Be Independent
What does Independence Day mean to you? Do you even celebrate the 4th of July or is it just another day off filled with beer, boating and books? Have you ever gone to war to fight for this country’s independence? If you’ve never left the United States, you might not realize how blessed you are to live in a free country.
I visited China a number of years ago and people told us they were free there, but there was nothing free about them. They still avoided writing or speaking about anything political for fear of what would happen. They didn’t use the same Facebook as us because their government wouldn’t allow it. There were many controlled and sad stories about how many kids didn’t have value.
So this July 4th, I ask you to please take a few moments and be grateful for your freedom. Thank a solider for serving which allows you to live in the comfort of freedom every day. Let the fireworks fly and celebrate all that you have, and the ability to think, feel, speak and work where you choose, for whom you choose. Today’s Chooseletter is all about the choices we’re free to make that many others only dream of having some day.
Can you be strong, independent and still be kind & gentle? Can you be independent and still be dependent?
What does living your best lifelook like to you?
How did you celebrate the 4th? Did you thank a solider? When you think of the word independence what comes to mind?
What, by who or where do you feel your life is being controlled? What do you need freedom from?
Do you feel safe to speak freely about your thoughts and opinions? Are you grateful to be an American? Do you take your freedom for granted?
Sometimes we can feel so insignificant in this world, almost invisible for some but you are not! You are seen, you are valuable, you my friend are Enough. In fact most of you are more than enough and need to give yourself a break. Be gentle with yourself this week. Be kind to you, lower your expectations to be perfect and start enjoying all of you, Even the messy parts. Because you my friend are truly ENOUGH!
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My friend Wendy told me a story from her time as a substitute host on a local radio station. On the air one evening, she asked: “Have you ever witnessed a miracle in your life?” A man named John called in.
In a calm, confident, baritone voice, John told the audience that by the time he was twenty-eight years old, he had won and lost everything. He was an uncontrolled alcoholic, having been through treatment several times to no avail. His wife had left him and taken their kids, he got fired, and he lost his house.
John confessed that he was going to end his life. He made a plan to drive to a town he didn’t know, pull off onto a side road where he’d never been, and shoot him-self with a borrowed pistol. The day he decided to die, he pulled into the back of a gravel parking lot behind a building he didn’t know.
There, John played with the pistol in his hand when he remembered something one of his chemical dependency counselors—a man he had hated—had said: “If you think that ending your addiction by suicide is the only route you can take, that’s fine. However, have enough respect for yourself to take that action ONLY if you spend one minute—and I mean sixty full, focused seconds—to think about your actions and the outcome. If after that one focused minute you still believe this is the only way, then you’re not making a snap decision, so go ahead and do it.”
John hated that counselor. Hated his voice, his words, and his attitude. . .so it was even more hateful that these were the last thoughts he would ever think. So he decided to do his sixty seconds before shooting himself. Easy, right? Wrong.
Across the parking lot, there was a door that was slightly ajar, and thin light was coming through it. Curiosity destroyed his concentration, and he had to start this one minute all over again. But it was no good. John’s eyes kept darting to the light that was growing stronger as the night got darker and darker.
Cursing himself as a failure even in suicide, John decided to get out and investigate what was distracting him, so that once he knew the source of the annoying light, he could do his full sixty seconds.
As John approached the door, he said, he was about to reach for the handle when it suddenly swung open and a hopeful man appeared. The man gently asked, “Are you here for the Alcoholics Anonymous meeting?” He was.
At that exact moment, the walls came down. This road he didn’t know, in this city that he’d never visited, with a gun that wasn’t his, delivered him to the stoop of the very thing he was running from. John shared with his new friend that he was out of control, had lost everything, and had a loaded pistol in the car.
That night, John started to get his life back. His job, his house, his self-respect, wife, and kids—all because a CD counselor whose guts he hated had spoken the truth into him before he was ready to hear it.
Then John finished the call by saying, “If you don’t think that’s a miracle, I don’t know what is.” And he quietly wished her well and hung up the phone.
John’s truth was that he was an addict, and that his disease was ruining his life. The truth was that John was able to look beyond suicide—an easy out—and work hard to get back the things in his life that mattered. The truth was that he wasn’t helpless. He just needed help.
Do you love food? Does it have to be fancy to be fun? I was with a number of speakers the other day and one was telling me about a family member that is always complaining & negative. I said ” I avoid those people I only like to be around happy & fun people” he said who doesn’t? Truth is many people don’t like to have fun. They might rather or be more used to focusing on what doesn’t work, What is unhappy in the news or why it wont work for them. But I truly believe life is meant to be good, fun and maybe even fabulous some days. Something as simple as food can make you happy. I am not saying food should control your emotions but I love to start my day with a Grape Spark, I love tator-tots, I love pickles and Greg well he love a DQ Blizzard. Certain foods make you smile because they taste good or remind you of a wonderful memory. I love sweet peaches in the Summer time. I have loved them my whole life and there is nothing to me that says summer like a sweet juicy peach. What foods make you smile, What foods bring good memories? What simple things will make you smile this week?
Are you a self proclaimed procrastinator? Are you okay with that or are you ready to stop procrastinating? Are you ready to change your Excuses to reasons why and become proactive? Are you self Motivated or only by the deadline? Are you likely to put off today what you can do tomorrow or for that matter yesterday. What are you waiting for? Who are you waiting for? Make this week the week you check off more than your write down. Don’t wait for another day another week to get healthy, get organized, take that class, try something new, finish your home projects. What has been on your to do, wish I would do, someday I will do list for too long? Are you a Procrastinator or a Motivator? Le this be the week that you are ahead of the game in your home and your career!