Why is it that people live for other people’s dirty laundry? It baffles me that some love to watch a tragedy on repeat or feed off of another person’s misfortunes. Is it our own fault as a society?Whether it’s an awful car accident at the top of the nightly news, or seeing something burn to the ground, tragedies seem to get the most attention. If you listen, even with half an ear, you’ll often hear others seeking out more details or gossiping about someone else’s failures rather than hyping up their successes and cheering them on.As someone who advocates for encouraging and supporting others, sharing our stories for the better, and showing kindness to all, it breaks my heart when I hear others taking joy in someone else’s pain. In order to overcome this, I believe each of us needs to take responsibility and start putting emphasis on checking ourselves when we go too far.The next time you catch yourself gossiping about someone or something else ask yourself, “Why are we fueling this? What could we do to be helpful instead?” By working toward simple shifts in your thinking, such asking yourself how you can help versus harm, you not only have the opportunity to bring positivity into your life but to the lives of those around you.As I get older, I see more and more that what we focus on we find in our own lives. This week, I encourage you to be mindful of your conversations and to start asking yourself and others how you can help versus harm. Through practicing this disruption, you may be amazed by the positive shifts you’ll see in your life! What does living your exceptional life look like to you?Do you love other people’s dirty laundry? Why?What will you focus on this week that you want to find more of in your life?How will you disrupt your thoughts about other people’s dirty laundry to refocus on being helpful instead of harmful? #AbovethePalmtrees#mentalwellnessexpert#h3cultures
Blog from above the Palm trees…Still looking for more contributors for my upcoming Adoption book, if you are interested please just send me an email to Annie@AnnieMeehan.com with the word Adoption in the subject line……On to the Blog Nature vs. Nurture
I’ve always been so fascinated by the nature versus nurture conversation. As a birth mother with adoption as part of my story, I’m typically very curious to see how things play out.
When adoptees reunite, they discover so many things they have in common with the other person even though they’ve never been a part of each other’s lives. Then, on the other hand, many kids who grow up in the same home with the same parents end up being so much different.
As you know, I speak a lot about choices which has always led me to wonder is it more about personality, family, or choice? When it comes down to it, should we place the blame of our successes and failures on another person, or ourselves?
As I meet more people I’m starting to notice, no matter how they were raised, that a majority place credit, or blame, on their mother rather than anyone else or themselves for their successes and failures in life.
The most heartwarming to me is when I meet someone with a powerful, maybe even painful story who now has an abundance of hope and healing in their life. It can be astonishing to meet someone who has taken total responsibility for getting themselves to where they are now.
No one else made it happen for them. They decided to focus on what they had versus what they were lacking and chose to remake an incredible life for themselves. The more stories I encounter the more I ask myself, “Were they able to accomplish that because of nature or nurture?”
This week, I encourage you to reflect on where you stand in the age old question of nature versus nurture. Is it up to us to create our stories, see our successes through, and overcome our struggles or should we rely on others to rescue us and help make it happen?
What does living your exceptional life look like to you? Is your life path a result of nature or nurture? Do you give credit to or place blame on your mother or yourself as you experience successes and failures in life?
Do you believe nature is best or nurture? Why? #adoption #LifeAbovethePalmtrees #mentalwellnessexpert #naturevsnurture #celebratinglife
Stop sitting on the fence, believe in yourself, and do whatever you need to do to get things done! As much as I love dreamers and their dreams, myself included, I’m starting to think I love action even more. I often meet people who have big dreams then get sucked into and stuck in the small decisions. What I’ve learned over time is I need to write my dreams down, set action steps, and hold myself accountable by sharing with someone else otherwise my dreams rarely become the reality I desire. To me, a dream without a plan is just a vision. Think back on some of the dreams you had last year. What did you want for your relationships, health, finances, or career? What did you do to turn your dreams into reality? Many times when we get stuck in the small decisions, we get slowed down or even halt the progress we’ve made entirely which is where your action steps and accountability shine. Now I want you to think forward into this year and ask yourself, “Is this the year I’m ready to turn my dreams into reality?” This week, I encourage you to focus on a single dream and write down your first five action steps, then share them with me. It can be hard to rely on a friend as your accountability partner when everyone is so busy with their own lives which is why it’s helpful to work with me as your coach! I will walk alongside you offering encouragement, support, and accountability to keep your action steps on track and remind you why you chose this dream. If you’re ready to turn your dreams into reality, I would love the opportunity to visit with you and see how coaching will help you create the life you’re dreaming of! What does living your exceptional life look like to you? What dream are you committed to turning into reality this year? Let Annie know what you think! What small decision are you stuck in? What are your action steps to make forward progress? Who will you ask to keep you accountable? Why? Are you dreaming of writing a book this year? I plan to release 2 and maybe 4 new books this year…Make your dreams a reality!!!