How do you stay HOPEFUL in the midst of rejection? Do you know the SW rule…Some Will, Some Won’t, So What, Someone is Waiting to meet you, Hire you, and love you! I hope you stay hopeful in the Storms you Weather this week! #h3culturesintheworkplace #keynotespeaker #swrule #WeatheringTheStorms #Salesstrategies
We’re Moving…Will The Next Chapter Be Exceptional?
For the last 30+ years I’ve talked about moving south. I love the feel of summer weather all year, the heat of the sunshine, the beauty of the ocean, and all the people who love to spend their days outside.
This past winter, we spent two months living on Fort Myers Beach. Each day we enjoyed two to three walks on the beach, bike rides, tennis, and time in the pool which are all things I love doing outside. Even on the only rainy, cold day we experienced, we still got a couple dog walks in.
In my mind, the thought of moving has always been simple as I felt like if I just do it, everything will work out. However, I learned during our time there that it might be more complicated than I thought. When you’re close to the beach, many things are very expensive, not everyone loves dogs, and not all beaches allow dogs. I also started to think about our need to find a new church, doctor, dentist, vet… and the list continues.
Then I started thinking about all our opportunities to experience new beginnings, making new friends, discovering new places to hangout, and getting to know new neighborhoods. For someone like me who loves change, it can be hard to stay out of trouble sometimes. Following the last year of loss in many areas, I’m ready to make a change and say yes to a new chapter in Florida!
Before we made our decision, we talked to each one of our kids to be sure they were alright with where we wanted to go next. We were blessed to have their excitement and full support surrounding us which I’m incredibly grateful for.
We’ve made offers on two homes so far though we lost out on both; but by the time this hits your inbox, we may have found the place to call our new home! It’s easy to let fear of the unknown stop us from making moves in any area of our lives. However, I believe there’s always something better waiting on the other side. While we go through the process, I’m going to work hard to focus on the good while acknowledging the challenges and facing them head on.
This week, I encourage you to challenge your fear of the unknown and say yes to whatever move you’ve been waiting to make whether it be big or small. You never know what could be waiting for you right on the other side!
What does living your exceptional life look like to you?
What move have you been waiting to make? Are you ready?
When was the last time you made an important move? What motivated you?
What was the best part about the last move you made? Why?
This blog is from a while ago and now a new chapter back in MN will start the end of this year as I launch my Small Business Vistage group in MN. I just felt that this blog was a good reminder, life is always changing we can focus on the Obstacles or the Opportunities. I am so excited for my next Exceptional chapter ; )
In a world where it’s human nature to think more about ourselves than anyone else, what tools do you use to redirect your thinking from, “What’s in it for me?” to “How can I serve others?”
As I listened to a study the other day, one of the researcher’s questions got me thinking. She said, “Everything has changed to being all about ourselves. How do you protect yourself from becoming self-absorbed?” As the day went on, I spent a lot of time thinking about that question as well as how different things are today.
We now live in a world that’s moved from a coffee pot to a k-cup that turns out exactly how we want it; again, all about me. We’re in a time where people aren’t taking photos to preserve memories anymore. Instead, they’re taking selfies alone and once they take the selfie, by themselves, they edit it to their exact liking before posting it to see how many other people will “Like” it.
The trouble about this mindset is it’s challenging to overcome now that it’s the new societal norm – so what’s the solution? In my mind, one of the first steps to redirecting your thinking is to work on shifting your perspective and focus. I accomplish this by using a gratitude journal which is simple yet allows me to reflect on what I have in life and what’s going well rather than what’s lacking. I’m then able to appreciate others in my life and focus on how I can pour into them what they’ve poured into me.
As I got more comfortable with my gratitude journal, I started experimenting with taking it one step further. Not only do I write what I’m grateful for, I also write what I gave to others with generosity in my heart. I’ve been sharing this next step with people in my life for some time now and they’ve benefited from it, too. It’s been helping them bring awareness to how they’re giving back and the positive impact they’re making in the lives of others each day.
Through this practice, I know which days I’m serving someone else whether it’s simple or significant. To me, a giving spirit is a happy spirit and I love nothing more than being happy! When we focus less on ourselves and more on making a difference in the lives of others, the happier I believe we are.
This week, I encourage you to mindfully redirect your thinking from, “What’s in it for me?” to “How can I serve others?” through at least one generous act of service for someone else each day whether it be big or small!
What does living your exceptional life look like to you?
What generous acts of service will you perform for others this week?
How do you protect yourself from becoming self-absorbed?
How often do you mindfully practice gratitude and reflecting on your service to others? How do you do it?
Be the Exception, 7 Keys to Transformation, Rewrite your Story, Break the Cycles that no longer serve YOU!
Being The Exception
It’s interesting to me how people respond when I talk about being the exception. Some say, “Wow, you really are the exception! You’ve overcome so much while staying positive and being generous.” Other times, people call me out and say, “You don’t always live an exceptional life or have it all perfectly together. I’ve heard your stories.”
The truth is, I believe we’re all a work in progress; the magic doesn’t just happen overnight. Being the exception, breaking cycles, and rewriting my story is daily work and some days are definitely better than others.
The 7 Steps, which to me seem more like The 7 Ways of Being, give me something to work on every day. As I navigate through the steps I have to remain mindful in order to be intentional with my thoughts, words, and actions.
Step 1, be honest, may be the biggest challenge for me. This step requires me to analyze my thoughts, judgements, and stories then ask myself, “Is this true? Does it serve me? Does it serve others?” We all carry stories in our head and those stories often become our truths.
Step 2, be open, applies to opportunities, new perspectives, mentorship, and so much more. By being open, all of us have had moments in life where we’ve learned a great deal from others. By doing so, we have the chance to apply it to our own lives and share our new knowledge with even more people.
Step 3, be healthy, can be a slippery slope for someone who loves treats. I have to actively make different choices and remind myself how it will positively impact my body, mind, and spirit.
Step 4, be flexible, is accomplished for me through the serenity prayer. It reminds me that I’m not able to be in charge of everything and that life will always be changing.
Step 5, be gentle with your story, looks like practicing an abundance of grace in my world. Each of us has a story, none worse or greater than another. We all have stories of success, failures, and challenges in our lives. It’s how we talk about our story that determines if we embrace where we came from and where we’re going next.
Step 6, be courageous, means looking fear in the eye and saying, “I can do this anyway!” It means not only overcoming my fears to help myself, but overcoming my fears to better sever others, too.
Step 7, be authentic, may be the other biggest challenge for me. It’s especially tough when there are so many others telling me I’m either too much or not enough. It takes a lot of practice and being present in the moment to be authentically myself though with each day, I know who I am more and more.
This week, I encourage you to join me in being the exception! We aren’t going to do this perfectly, but we are going to do it intentionally. Together, we’ll use these ways of being to bring awareness to our thoughts, actions, and words. I’m a work in progress and so are you! Won’t you continue alongside me as we journey toward being the exception? What does living your exceptional life look like to you?
Do you feel like you’re the exception? Why?
What does living authentically mean to you?
Which of these 7 Ways of Being is easiest for you? Which one challenges you the most?