Do looks matter to you? When it comes to young girls, it seems like being cute, sexy, pretty, or beautiful is vitally important. To a young girl, having a boyfriend often equates to having value and this is sometimes the case with adult women, too. For me, this used to be relatable, but over the years how I want to be seen, valued, and acknowledged has changed.
Nowadays, being beautiful doesn’t have nearly the same value that it used to have in my mind, though I do think it’s important to take care of yourself, be somewhat well groomed, and dress appropriately for different situations. To me, it certainly isn’t the outside compliments that mean the most; rather, it’s those about my wisdom, strength, hard work, focus, and discipline that make me feel the best.
Sure, it can feel nice every once in a while to be seen when I’ve put in that extra effort to make sure I look nice for a special occasion, but the true feelings of value still come from what’s on the inside, which is what truly matters. Beauty only gets people so far in life before their brain, hard work, and finding their strengths and inner value must take over to continue growing, changing, and making progress in life.
The next time you’re about to offer someone a compliment about their person on the outside, I encourage you to stop and ask yourself, “What compliment can I give related to something within this person, like their worth or value?” Last week, someone expressed how honored they were to be in my presence because I’m a strong and wise woman. That compliment made me feel radiant and reinforced that value comes from the inside, not the outside. Imagine the feelings you would experience knowing you made someone feel that wonderful with your words!
What does living your exceptional life look like to you?
What is the greatest compliment someone has given you?
Do you place more value on what’s on the inside or what’s on the outside? Why?
What’s the best compliment you’ve given someone else?